Living as a couple can be full of rewarding moments, but the reality is that it is not easy, it requires respect, commitment, complicity and a lot of patience to accept the other’s way of being with its virtues (the simplest) and its defects included in the package. In this article, we know that this task can become a challenge, that is why we give you the keys to discover how to learn to be patient with your partner.
Steps to follow:
- It is true that patience is something that comes with our personality, there are more and less patient people, but it can also develop and become a habit if we consciously try to exercise it, so do your best to put these tips into practice and become someone more tolerant with your partner.
- The first step is to identify those situations that you know are ending your patience and analyze what is your response to them, in what way do you drain that which causes your concern. Detecting what your partner does that causes you to lose patience is the best way to be attentive to control the reaction.
- Once you have some identified situations, the real work begins: learning to control yourself and working to change. Many times, the arguments we have with our partner are due to impatience, not wanting to listen, to always wanting to impose our point of view without waiting to hear the other’s. Making an effort to change this situation will make a difference.
- When you know that you are about to lose your patience, encourage control, think instead of acting without reason. Saying to ourselves: “calm down, listen, take a deep breath, control yourself, it’s not that bad.” is a good way to avoid exploding and increasing conflict.
- Learn to converse, communication is essential especially when doing work to improve the relationship. If you are determined to be more patient then talk to your partner and explain your purpose, together you can build a better relationship working on their weak points, it is important that this progress is made as a team.
- Are you a controlling person? Think twice, because part of your impatience may be due to always wanting to do everything in a certain way, to make plans so that they are strictly respected instead of being flexible. Flexibility helps us to accept certain situations the way they come and to work on them with the tools that are available, so analyze yourself in search of the causes of that impatience.
- Learn to reflect either alone or with your partner, it is important to analyze the reason for your conflicts and problems to detect the most convenient solution.
- Perhaps the lack of your patience with your partner is a way to drain the stress or frustrations that you have in other aspects. If so, you must correct this attitude because the other does not deserve to be the receptacle of your problems in other fields.
- Courage, if you can! It only requires work and concentration on your part for you to achieve the final goal: be more patient with your partner and a better person every day.
