You have taken that person to the airport at 4:00 in the morning, you have let him sleep in your bed without even touching a hair, you have accompanied him shopping and you have even brought him a chicken broth the last time he had the flu. You drool when you see him and it also seems to you that he is very clear and that he knows it. But there is always a but, that person far from imagining all the passion that is in you, sees you nothing more and nothing less that as your friend of the soul, welcome to the friend zone!
Steps to follow:
- Many times, we wonder how it is possible to have reached that point of intimacy (not precisely the one you want) and be absolutely unable to tell that person what you feel. Well, normally this happens because we hide behind the fear of rejection or losing our friendship, but we never think that this is not really a true friendship, it attracts you, you like it, you imagine yourself in other scenarios with that person, and that will hardly change.
- That’s why there are only two alternatives, either you walk away for your own good and to safeguard your emotions, or you bet hard and plan your strategy to get out of the friend zone and show that you can be something more than that. So, in this article we will explain how to carry out the second alternative.
- Love yourself a little! There is a tremendous danger of the friend zone and that is that we become completely unconditional with respect to that person, who begins to see us as their company for absolutely everything. We abandon plans with friends, we are open and available and everything to get their attention, but what it does is push you even further into the friend zone.
- Start to mark a little distance, show yourself as someone who has a life and take the opportunity to test if the other is interested in getting closer to you. Give him the opportunity to feel your absence and miss you, so you also help him to reflect on their relationship.
- Behave like someone who flirts, who pretends and not like the unconditional little friend and adolescent. Next time do not meet to go shopping or have a coffee, invite him to a dinner, have a drink alone and act as you would with someone you like. Give the other person a chance to see that you have the qualities of a partner.
- We all know how we behave when we are with friends and how we do it when someone interests us, so evaluate yourself and act on a par with your feelings, enough to be the unconditional friend.
- Do you think you have given that person to understand that you feel something? Do you think that the matter of the airport, that the issue of becoming her mother’s best friend or accompanying her to buy clothes and visit a thousand stores in 2 hours speaks for itself? Well, no!
- Although it is clear that these are things, we do for someone we really love, you should know that in the case of friendship this only happens after years and a close relationship with friends, it does not happen out of nowhere.
- If you want to leave the friend zone, show him that you are not only a good friend, dare to woo him and without half measures, if you are going to bet, bet on telling him that you like him and not on sending him an anonymous flower arrangement.
- Please, no fear! It is not the end of the world, dare to take another step and try to promote a more intimate physical approach. Go out alone, at night, invite him to a plan that could be a date, go dancing, encourage physical closeness, touch, try to convey that there is a sexual tension and that you want to break it.
- The story of not wanting to lose your friendship is one of the oldest excuses (along with it’s not you, it’s me) out there. Many, many friends have been attracted at one point in their relationship, had an affair, and then continued their friendship as usual.
- Others have risked telling the other person what they feel and have led to incredible relationships, or rejections, but the important thing is that they have managed to face their emotions and transmit them.
- If it doesn’t work out, if you can’t get out of the friend zone, if the other person isn’t interested, it’s not a bad thing to die, you’ll get over it and get on with your life. That is much better than asking yourself the rest of your days what it would have been if, what do you say, do you dare to leave the friend zone?
