Who doesn’t already have an ex? Having previous partners is completely natural and much more at certain ages. When it comes to intimacy and affection, an ex is part of the past, but that does not mean that many of them are not in the present occupying some other place in the life of your current partner. Mother of some children in common, family, friends, neighbors. If your boy’s ex is still around in his life, pay attention to the following article. In this article, we explain how to deal with your partner’s ex. It is important that you know well what role she occupies in your boy’s life, what situations between the two are normal and which can cross a line. If you carry the relationship between your partner and his ex with ease and confidence, everything will go smoothly. Keep reading!
Steps to follow:
- Does your partner’s ex make you jealous for no apparent reason? Don’t worry; it’s completely normal for insecurity to flourish in you when she’s around. It is evident that they have been together, intimate and sharing many things and if there is good vibes between them, the complicity will be even more evident. If she still has an interest in your boy, you will notice that her presence is more powerful, she can even intrude between you. Even if this ghost from the past drills into your head and thinks you are paranoid, don’t let it spoil your relationship with your boy. Now that we have normalized this situation, pay attention to the following tips.
- The first thing you need to do to deal with your boyfriend’s ex is put the past aside. It is normal that you are interested in certain aspects of his previous life and you need to know the most important ones, but he does not have to tell you everything, because if his ex is still around, he could torture you too much. You have an ex, yes, but your courtship should be based on a healthy, calm and carefree relationship and that is only achieved without wanting to meddle too much in the past.
- Do you already know everything about their previous relationship? Don’t worry, all is not lost. You must be aware that like you, he also has a past and you have no right to judge him for it. So be aware of reality: he is with you and not with her. He loves you and shows it to you. So why hesitate? Remember that a relationship must be resolved on the pillars of sincerity, love and, above all, trust. So trust her words and actions and stop being yourself the one who makes yourself suffer for thinking more about her than about your happiness and that of your partner.
- Do you feel how your insecurity is growing? Stimulate communication between the two of you to clarify all the doubts you may feel. Yes, it is normal that you question many things with the presence of your ex and more if now he denies things that he had previously told you avoid talking about the subject or is too affectionate with her. Maybe he is not lying to you; maybe he just wants to avoid giving more importance to this topic. Be that as it may, if you need to talk about it, do it without fear, because only then will you be able to establish a strong and solid relationship, without fear, without worries and with total security that everything between him and his ex is over forever.
- To deal with your boyfriend’s ex; you need to stay calm, especially if she makes a stellar appearance. Just because she is haunting his life again doesn’t mean he’s going to run away with her. Do not forget that now she is your boyfriend, you are the present; you are the one who occupies her life right now. So don’t try to miss yourself. She had a story with him, now the story is you.
- Do not try to become her enemy either, because even if she does not pretend to be with your boy, simply to annoy you she could try. Be cordial, stay out of the way, in your place, and let your guy stop him, if necessary.
- If by any chance you argue with your partner, don’t ever put her in the middle of your problems and, much less, for no reason. Mentioning it in your disputes as a reproach will end up leaving you as paranoid and, above all, being the one who is causing the problem. Putting her as an excuse in your problems is not good for you, so do not criticize her, or make any comment about her. Ignorance is the best medicine.
- Try not to show anger in front of her. If you see a compromising situation that bothers you, first talk privately with your boy and try to do it with all the calm in the world. He is the one who should give you explanations, that is what your partner is currently for. Do not attack her or make her guilty of everything, because if her ex gets closer than necessary it is because he does not put limits on her.
- Trust yourself and your relationship. Try to leave your own personal mark on your boy’s heart, make her happy, and not argue over nonsense. Trust and love, also self-love, are the keys to showing all that you are worth and guarantee that he loves you for it. Jealousy is nothing more than a reflection of our shortcomings, fears and insecurities. Don’t let your ex intoxicate your relationship, leave it behind and make your boy’s life always happy. Surprise him, get out of the routine and fall in love with him day after day.
- If your boy has made it clear to you that he does not have any kind of interest in his ex and you see that he does not pay much attention to him, even though they have to continue sharing a portion of their lives (for family, friendly or work reasons, among others), no worry more and stop thinking about it. The less you introduce it into your lives, the less presence it will have. It is also in your hand.
- Do not intrude on your boy’s privacy. If you trust, you trust 100%, so stop obsessing yourself with her ex. Do not track their social networks, or their cell phone. In this way, the only one who does more damage is you. Let your ex take her rightful role right now: be the past. And you. Enjoy the here and now!
- Lastly, never compare yourself to your boy’s ex. whatever the reason they left him, the decision was made and now he has rebuilt his life with you. He likes you just the way you are, that’s why he’s with you and if so many memories invade him and he liked it so much, then he should look for a profile similar to her. You never beg love for love. You are as you are and you are worth it, so if he is not satisfied, it is not for you. You must give your love to the person who wants to receive it and give it to you. Love yourself and he will love you more.
- If you follow all these tips, you will see how you can deal with your boyfriend’s ex in a much easier way than you expected.
