When a relationship ends there is always the possibility that those bonds that unite them (friends, people in common, profession, tastes, etc.) remain so that the connection between the two is not completely lost. Some people think that getting along selflessly with an ex is impossible, others think otherwise, we will not feed the controversy but we will be honest: that depends a lot on who you are, who your ex is and how the relationship has been. With that said, we give you some important tips so that you know how to be friends with your ex successfully.
Steps to follow:
- Not all relationships work well on a friendship level. Those conflictive or very unstable unions do not lend themselves to a future friendship for the simple reason that values such as respect or trust have been overshadowed by tension, mistreatment and in some cases violence.
- Many people seek to force friendship from one day to the next, so that a relationship of friends between two people who were a couple arises it is necessary that time passes, mistakes are forgiven and wounds heal. It cannot and should not be an imposition as this will only create unnecessary pressure and tension.
- You love and love your friends, that is clear. But we love them in a different way: if you feel that even that person somehow belongs to you, if you still see them with the eyes of carnal love, if you continue to like and attract them, it is better to stop. Until these feelings are overcome, a true friendship cannot arise because you will always run the risk of falling back into the past.
- If yours ended because you no longer worked together but between you there is great affection and respect, it is likely that the desire to have a friendship is mutual, in that case do not pay attention to what people may think, you will hear a thousand things: that is not normal, where there was fire ashes remain… blah blah. Yes, it is possible to be friends with an ex to the point that over the years that relationship is so much in the past that they don’t even remember it, what prevails is the friendship between you
- To move on to the level of friendship it is necessary to leave grudges behind, so if you really want to preserve an affectionate relationship with your ex but you have too many things inside, the best thing is that after a while when everything calms down, talk about it, not as an argument if not as a way to free yourself from those emotions and to be able to climb to another step.
- Normally when there are many things or friends in common it is normal for two people who were a couple to become friends over time and it is that they will finally meet on many future occasions, they have many dear people in common, they enjoy similar things.. it did not work that kind of relationship but nothing prevents friendship from going well.
- The key to the friendship between ex: the past is in the past. Nothing to take out the dirty laundry in the sun: “it is that 6 years ago you were the one who left me”, what happens if they assume a friendship relationship what happened while they were together will stay there.
- Remember that being friends with your ex-partner implies that when the time comes you should see him with another person, for which you have to be very mature and have a wide-open mind. If you think that never in your life you will be prepared for that then do not try to force a friendship that will not be.
- If your ex-partner does not want to hear from you, if he does not feel comfortable with your presence in his life, you must respect his decision and continue on the path. Time will tell whether or not they will be able to share in other ways in the future.
Tips.
- Not all relationships can become friendship, only those truly good where there was always respect and affection achieve it.
- If your relationship was stormy do not try to find a friendship, better get rid of the presence of that person in your life and continue on your way.
